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A Family Affair
Simple Ways to Keep Romance Alive with Kids Underfoot
By Amy Carey
If you still find it difficult to remember to put your relationship first, try making a list of several special things you'd like your partner to do for you within the span of a week. Have him make a similar list. Do you want him to take out the trash, give you a foot rub or bathe the kids? Does he wish you'd make him eggs one morning, take out the trash for him or pick up his favorite magazine at the newsstand? Post the lists where you'll see them and do as many favors for your partner as you can. It will soon become a habit to make your spouse a priority when you see how well received your small gestures can be – and how good his small gestures can make you feel.
While you're making time for romance, don't forget a key factor in the success of your relationship: making sure you have time for yourself. If both members of your relationship are happy as individuals, you'll find it is much easier to be happy as a couple – and to want your romance to thrive.
"Take turns taking care of the children and give each other the gift of planned, free time, an afternoon or a Saturday morning," say the Jonases. "Then pamper yourself with a bubble bath, a new hair cut, a manicure, go shopping alone, play golf or go to a football game." As difficult as it is to find time for yourself, prioritize these chunks of personal time as you would any other appointment. Then you are free to spend the renewed energy you bring home on romance.
Don't forget: When Mom and Dad share a healthy, happy relationship, everyone wins.