Ask yourself, "What do I really believe is the secret of life?" Moment by moment, with everything we do or say, with every choice we make, we are broadcasting our fundamental take on the secret of life. Such as: If you screw up, you're dead meat. You can never be too careful. We're all victims of circumstances beyond our control. If your goal is to join Roberts in the conviction he feels so strongly that he wrote a book about it, you need to know where your starting line is. Understanding our take on the secret of life is a lifetime adventure that continually helps us to become more resilient and peaceful.
Commit to learning at the speed of fear. Roberts says that the biggest gift we get is the gift of choice, and the most important choice we make is love or fear. That's not to say we should fear fear. Rather, we should honor fear. It is one of the greatest teachers on earth and, ironically, it is the golden key that unlocks the heart. "Love blossoms as fear is released – and not released harshly as if we are expelling some demon, but released lovingly, with gratitude for all that the fear has taught us," writes Roberts. "That's all there is to being a healthy human being: Recognize fear, feel it, let it go, then attune ourselves more deeply to the love that fear has masked, the love that has always burned within us."
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