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Cohabiting Couples Raising Teens
Why Teens Benefit When Couples Say, "I Do."
By Laura Paul
She says teenagers will notice the effort the adults in the family are making when everyone graciously comes together for the teenagers' important ceremonies such as graduations and religious confirmations.
Single parents must use discretion and common sense when dating. Robredo says teenagers don't need to meet every man or woman their parent dates – just the serious contenders. Teenagers, although they might not show it, can become attached to a parent figure in the home.
"I have one family I am thinking of where the mom just met this guy and got all infatuated," Robredo says. "Within four weeks of meeting each other, she had the boyfriend go along in a hotel room to Disney World. The kids probably don't want to go on a family trip to Disney World with this guy Mom just met. They sure don't want to be in the same hotel room. I see parents often don't consider their kids. They consider themselves."
Finally, her advice is to wait at least six months before introducing a partner. Ultimately, delaying gratification will not only help a single parent to develop character, but will set a good example. Teenagers are beginning to develop their own significant romantic relationships for the first time. Teens benefit when they observe a parent keeping his or her head out of the clouds and feet planted in reality while navigating relationships and juggling family with new romances.
