'Tis the Season for a Stress-free Holiday

10 Parenting Tips That Will Bring Back the Joy and Peace

If you have kids, it's likely that the holidays can cause more stress than actual holiday cheer. Sure you love seeing their faces light up when they open their gifts, but the weeks prior to that special day can be exhausting. The major holiday stress culprits? Going from store to store with the whole family in tow, the seemingly infinite parties, the sweet treats you fear will give your kids a buzz until February, and the mountain of toys, gadgets and clothes that will be piled up in your house when the holidays are over.

Feeling tense just thinking about it? Take a deep breath. Virginia Bentz, author of the upcoming book Quick Guide to Good Kids (Frederick Fell Publishers, Inc., 2007), says you don't have to let stress ruin this wonderful time of year for you and your kids.

"This is probably one of the busiest times of the year for people with children," Bentz says. "People get so caught up in trying to make this a special time for the kids that they can sometimes overdo it. I want people to realize they can cut back on some of those activities and gifts. You'll actually be able to enjoy the time with your kids, and your kids will be happier without a jam-packed schedule."

If managing your kid-related holiday stress sounds like a great way to celebrate the season, here are 10 tips that will help you get started.

They can handle only so much that's "new and exciting" without a meltdown. So if they won't sit on Santa's lap, or they won't give that cherubic smile to Uncle Mel, just accept it. Sometimes, you might have to leave events earlier than planned. Consider bringing a babysitter along to attend activities with older kids. And let common sense prevail over your sepia-toned vision of what the holidays should be.

"I'm always surprised at how many parents sit their screaming child on Santa's lap in the hopes of getting an adorable picture," Bentz says. "The holidays can be as overwhelming for smaller children as they are for you. Know when it's time to throw in the towel. Instead of forcing your children into something you think they will enjoy, let them choose what activities are right for them."

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