Brette Sember gives the following tips for helping to make visitation transfers easier:

1. The first rule is don't fight, argue or have difficult discussions in front of or in earshot of your child. He or she is going to hear or pick up on it.
2. Create rules for custodial transitions (when you are exchanging your child). Decide in advance how it is going to go. Is Dad going to come in the house or wait on the porch? Have specific times. Have a specific routine during transition always kiss your child goodbye and say "I'll see you tomorrow," for example.
3. If you can't transition peacefully, don't have face-to-face interaction. Ask Grandma to come and hand the child over while you wait in the bedroom, for example. Using a buffer like this can ease tension for everyone.
4. Don't talk negatively about the other parent. Even if you believe your child cannot understand what you are saying, you could be wrong. Simply create a rule for yourself that you will never talk negatively about the other parent in front of your child.
5. Move on with your life. You need to fulfill yourself as a person and move past the divorce. It is always something that will be part of you, and that's OK. However, you need to continue to live and grow. Doing that will show your child that the divorce is not the end of the world, that life goes on and everyone needs to continue to grow. Happy parents mean happy children, so if you work at fulfilling yourself, you create a happy, well-adjusted home in which your child will thrive.